Liam and I celebrate six years together this month. We’ve already exchanged gifts and I couldn’t be more excited because apparently the traditional sixth anniversary gift is candy. Candy! That’s so rad.
That Liam and I even met in the first place is definitely a nod to whichever universal force you choose to credit. Considering the 1300 miles between the places that we grew up and the vast differences in our backgrounds it’s pretty crazy that we even had the opportunity to pair off in the first place. If Liam hadn’t gone to college (he’s the first in his family) he wouldn’t have been able to be in the place and role where we met. And if I didn’t have a wanderlust and love of a good cold winter I wouldn’t have either.
Neither of us were looking for a relationship when we met. I was headed to graduate school in the near future and didn’t want to be conflicted or distracted about my choice. And, believe it or not, Liam was contemplating a monastic life. We both thought we would ‘settle down’ in our mid-30s, if at all. Life is funny that way. I never know how to respond when people ask me “but how did you know he was the one?” because the truth of the matter is I was never not sure. In the moment I decided I liked this boy I also realized that we were going to be together forever. That kind of sounds like tween fangirl talk but it’s exactly how things went down. For both of us.
Our relationship isn’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but it’s perfect for us. I’m fiery and can start a fight about anything and he’s a cold-shouldered Yankee who can be more gruff than he realizes. We don’t do big romantic gestures or write love notes or send flowers. We’re both introverts and sometimes we’ll run out of things to talk about when we’re out to dinner. (Years ago someone said something to me that made me feel terrible about that but now I think it’s just a reflection of who we are.) Being together is easy, our relationship has been steady and that’s exactly what both of us wanted even if we didn’t know we were looking.
Even though last year’s anniversary was the first milestone that we reached, this year feels more significant. This past year has been the hardest on us as individuals, and as a result I feel like we really grew up a lot together. It isn’t so much that our marriage was tested though; that has been the constant and the comfort in a year full of changes both good and bad. I can think of a few isolated things that would have been easier if I were a single person but the year as a whole would have been much, much tougher without Liam by my side. So as cheesy as it might sound he and our relationship are what I am most grateful for this Thanksgiving.
We’re off for a super-quick Thanksgiving celebration with L’s family. Sadly we have to head home right after the big meal because my employer has requested my presence in the office on Friday. I guess it’s a mixed blessing since it means that I won’t be tempted by Black Friday shopping that I don’t need to partake in anyway because I’ve been done shopping for weeks. I hope that you all have a wonderful and relaxing weekend with family and friends. Safe travels!